Here are my notes as I listened to and watched the preachers, and below are my thoughts and reflections to each bullet and the whole topic on Hurt Attack: History.
There are three kinds of hurts.
- Serious hurts – these hurts are the big ones – problems, sickness, etc. Those things that make us think and realize that Life is indeed not fair. Bad things happen to good people. Even if life is unfair, God remains good and He will right your wrong. Why evil happens? Because hurt people hurt people. The evilest person was once upon a time an innocent child that was not loved.
We get hurt by other people not because they are bad, but because maybe, sometime in their life they have been hurt by others, and that pain has made them a different person than they were – someone who may need to hurt other people because of their pain. There are reasons why people do things, hurtful things – and having been hurt in the past could be one.
- Small hurts – are done not because people are evil but because they are people. People are people. When you get these small hurts you have to have the ability to brush it off, to move on, to let go.
Small hurts are those mistakes people make that makes us sad. Sometimes these mistakes were not purposely done to hurt us, but simply because we are human – we all make mistakes. It’s just that some times we are unconsciously bringing other people pain through the mistakes that we make.
- Self hurts – Most of the hurts that we complain about are self-inflicted. We have the tendency to hurt ourselves. There are two ways by which we hurt ourselves:
- When we repeat our mistakes.
“Winners make brand new mistakes every day. Losers make the exact mistakes over and over again.” ~Bro. Bo Sanchez
People don’t get what they deserve. People get what they think they deserve. If we see ourselves as garbage, we settle for garbage. But if we see ourselves as gold, we settle for gold only.
- When we replay our hurts.
We relive the hurt again and again and we don’t want to let it go. Sometimes we relive our wounds and replay the hurt.
There people who collect hurts and look for more hurts by projecting. We begin to collect to prove to entire world that we are the most hurt person.
Reflection: This last kind of hurt, and its types, remind me exactly what one of my close friends, Ms. Ghie would always tell me. While I am watching Bro. Bo and listening to his words and examples, most of the time I smile and silently agree. There had been times when I tell my worries to some of my friends and most of the time, they’d tell me the same thing – that I may have just been overthinking things and that I should stop thinking negative. What brings us self hurts are negative thinking and too much worrying. Sometimes we tend to overthink things. An example would be, “I did not get the job. Maybe because they think I’m not good enough. Or maybe they prefer someone with good looks, or maybe it was because of where I graduated from, or..” so and so.. We over-analyze things and it’s not helping us. We have to stop it. And realizing this, I have to stop it, too.
As I understand this, I think sometimes we look back at our past pain, aches, hurt and then we judge our future by it. A perfect example I could think of is when you have trusted someone and have been betrayed by the same person before. The painful experience of being betrayed will either force us to be more cautious on trusting someone next time, or too afraid to ever trust anyone again. But Bro. Bo and Bro. Odie are teaching us through this talk that we have to learn to let past hurts go – to move on.
I remember, when I told one of my closest guy friends 12 years ago who felt betrayed by someone, that just because somebody has fooled him doesn’t mean all the people that he’ll meet will do the same to him as did the past.
This may be hard, but let’s learn to brush these hurts off, learn from our mistakes, and never let these hurts and the people who hurt us, define our future. 🙂
*sighs* I have so much to learn in this month’s talk series. Why does it always feel the talks are written for people like me. Like, really. Oh well, as Bro. Bo said, Messy Church for Messy People… *raises hand* Present! 😉
Question of the day: How many of the hurts in your life come from others? How many of that hurt actually comes from you?
Today’s Prayer: Jesus I’m surrendering to you my old story of hurts. I give that to you. Give me a new story – of healing.
February Talk Series: HURT ATTACK
Talk 1 (Feb. 5): History
I attended today’s feast via Live Stream on their YouTube Channel KerygmaTV
The Feast Bay Area is a weekly prayer gathering of the Light of Jesus Family. Sundays at The Feast start with a Holy Mass, proceeded by a worship, then the talk sessions by Bro. Bo Sanchez and other Feast Builders. For Feast Schedules, you may visit their Facebook page: The Feast Bay Area