The biggest misconception you think people have about single life.
That it is a sad life.
Someone once asked me: Won’t you be sad if you stayed single?
I answered: No. It’s okay, I won’t be sad. And besides, there’s nothing I can do if there will never be someone for me, therefore, there’s also nothing I can do but accept it and be happy.
Just because someone is in a relationship doesn’t mean he or she is happy. For sure there’d be times when you hear bf-gf problems that seem so complicated that you’d thank the heavens you’re still single and is not having such kind of troubles. For someone in a relationship, there will also be times when you console your single-and-so-much-available friend while thinking “thank God I have my bf (or gf).”
Like any other things, neither being single or in-a-relationship guarantees happiness. To the single, it all depends on how we look at it. To those who are in a relationship, happiness lies on how they take care of their relationship.
I was once worried about being single. It was not helpful. I kept on thinking negative things about myself and it wasn’t good until I realized that I have to stop being busy worrying on things that I am not even sure if I will really be happy having it. And so I stopped worrying too much about it.
But why are there sad singles? Envy. These sad singles (which I were once) focus on what they don’t have:
– someone they can “hold hands while walking” (yeah, hhww lol)
– someone who can bring them to and get them from the office after work.
– someone they can watch scary movies with (you knoooow, scary movies, bf-gf, yeah right lol)
– hmm what else… I can’t think of anything more. See, I told you I stopped worrying about it, eh? Hehe! 😉
If we only focus on the good things that we already have then we will be more appreciative of our situation.
Just this minute, I thought of the phrase “Count your blessings instead of sheep.” The epiphany? It’s more easier to count the things that you now have than count the things that you don’t even own.. not just yet. 😉
Single for life? No worries, I will be fine. I know I will. 😉