natauhan

babalik na sa dati

walang masyadong iniisip at iniintindi
na mga bagay na wala namang kwenta
na nagiging resulta ng di kanais-nais na pagda-drama

babalik na sa kinaugalian
babalik sa dating katauhan
pipiliting di na magpaapekto
sa mga nangyayari sa paligid-ligid ko..

iiwasan ang mga dapat iwasan
mga taong siyang nagdadala ng kalungkutan
hindi gagawa ng kung ano man
na sa huli ay pwede kong pagsisihan..

babalik na..babalik na sya
un masunget na mapang-asar na tawa ng tawa
babalik na..babalik na ulet
yun batang sobra pa sa sobrang kulet..

hindi na sisimangot
ang noo hindi na magkukunot
babalik na sa taong nakilala
bilang isang taong mukang tinatawanan lang lahat ng problema.. 🙂

hahaha! 🙂

Not all Birds of the same feathers that flock together are the same

 

They say, and we have been taught of this that birds of the same feathers flock together. I recall one of those stories in grade school that has this infamous line “tell me who your friends are and I will tell you who you are” –now, is this saying unfair and false all along..?

A month ago, I had a little and nice conversation with two of my teammates na umabot actually sa isang maliit na debate na hindi kame aware of.

This is how it started. May na-kwento kase yun isa kong kasama which upon telling the story nanggagalaiti sya. Heheh.. And he was referring to a group of individuals whom he judged by the way he’s being treated basta kase naiinis sya kase meron syang na-encounter na isa sa group na yon which I guessed hindi yata naging maganda un meeting niya with that person. And so, ni-judge na niya un group as a whole.

And then he reminded the three of us of the ever-famous saying na “Birds of the same feathers flock together”.. then suddenly I was surprised of myself for saying “oist, birds of the same feathers are not the same!”

Natawa yun isa naming kasama “teka, teka nalito ako dun ah “birds of the same feathers are not the same”??”

Actually natawa din ako..napaisip ako dun sa sinabi ko and finally na-rephrase ko sya “teka, lam ko na, eto may bago akong quote

“Not all birds of the same feathers that flock together are the same”!”

Na-gets niyo ba..? Hindi lahat ng ibong magkakapareho ng balahibo (or let’s say breed) ay pare-pareho.. We cannot always judge a person by the friends he hangs out with. Tama..?

Being friends with self-centered brats doesn’t make us one of them. Just because we are friends with people whom other people judged to be maaangas doesn’t mean that we, too are maangas.. and it doesn’t mean that you have to hate me just because I belong to a group whose one member treated you wrongly..

Just like the quote I have read that goes “Never judge a person by their relatives”. Actually that’s because of this that I thought of rephrasing the ‘bird-of-the-same-feathers’ quote. It’s not because someone has a relative who did something bad makes him bad too. It would be unfair. Diba?

Anywhere, and everywhere, we judge each other by the group each one belongs, and sometimes we somehow forget that one person doesn’t represent the whole group. And it would be unfair for the whole group when they are judged by the way one of their members acts, or thinks. Likewise, the whole group doesn’t make a perfect representation of each person that belongs to it.

Siguro magiging tama lang ito because of what we call influence na pwede nating tawaging hawa-hawa.. naa-adapt ng isa ang ginagawa ng lahat or ng lahat ang ginagawa ng isa kaya pareho na sila.. unless it’s proven to be influence, this remains a falsity.

going back to our little “debate”..guess who won.. I won. How? Well, kinabukasan he came up to me and said “ate, tama ka..not all birds of the same feathers are the same.. naalala ko rin kase un sinabi skin ng tatay ko”.. hehe..

“sabi ko sa’yo eh..nagets mo na..? nakakatuwa naman nainitindihan mo..yey..” –jardj

Eh ayun….wala lang.. nakakadalawa na ‘ko.. what I mean by this is nakakadalawang quotes or expressioins  na ‘ko na narerephrase because of reality.. ni-blog ko na rin un isa before.. want a recap of the two quotes/expressions? Here..

Before:

• “haay.. NO CHOICE eh”
• “birds of the same feathers flock together”

After:

• “we have a choice..we have a choice..we have a choice” –dahil lagi tayong may choice at marami tayo nun.. yun nga lang kadalasan un choice na gusto natin, hindi pwede..
• Not all “birds of the same feathers that flock together” are the same.

Ideally, un mga nakasulat dapat yun na lang un itinatatak sa isipan..but for me reality strikes and even teaches us more.

Ideally , we have to act or think the way our group does (reason for us being judged fairly or unfairly), but reality tells us that we have our own ways of thinking that somehow separates or differs us from the group we are a member of..

😉

 

The Bugging “Or”

 

Yes or No. True or False. Affirm it or Deny It. These are sets of choices to answer questions which are supposed to be dapat madali na lang nasasagot.

“Alam mo ba gumawa ng .ksh?” –yes or no.

“Nag-update ka ba ng time tracker spreadsheet?” –yes or no.

“May bf/gf ka na daw?” –true or false.

“Alam ko kung sino yung tinutukoy mo..” –affirm it? Or Deny it.

These are only a few of those questions we are asked that only require a yes or a no reply, a confirmation whether some thing is true or not, or an affirmation. These, as mentioned by Bob Ong sa isa sa mga libro nya eh mga tanong na kapag itinanong syo isa lang sa dalawa un isasagot mo at di na kelangan ng explanation. Say, for example..hehe.. one time.. tinanong ako ng lead ko nung unang tanong.. hehe..sagot ko “run lang.”..o diba, isa pa akong toinks-toinks… hehehe.. o kaya dun sa next example question, tpos isasagot natin “kanina pa.”..ang tanong ay kung nag-update ka na ba –oo o hindi., at hindi kelan ka nag-update ng time tracker.. hehehhe!

Minsan naman, mas gugustuhin mo pang wala sa dalawang choices un sagot sa’yo tipong nagexplain sya. Kesa naman sa “hanging” ang sagot.. tipong tawa lang ang isasagot sayo.. Eto minsan yun nakakabitin or let say nakakainis kase hindi mo alam kung ano ba, totoo ba o hindi totoo? Sya nga ba o hindi sya?.. gets niyo po..?

Haaay.. I’m just ..hmm. I dunno.. punta tayo sa last example question ko.. and actually this has been “bugging” me for how many days already… when someone just laughed at something you said (referring to the last example question), what does the “laughing” mean?.. was it an affirmation na “oo tama yun nga..” or “hahaha..bahala ka mag-isip jan, anyways hindi naman un yun noh”

.it would be hard for you to judge what the laughing meant kase it would shempre depend on kung ano ba yung pinag-usapan. . pero..just the same, what do you think why would someone prefer to just reply with a laugh to the statement, and didn’t bother explain. He or she just laughed.. and that was it..

*sigh*

 

As the New Year begins (written on the New Year’s Day ’09)

Weird. We get so excited to write our new set of New Year Resolutions just to be disappointed w/ ourselves later on for breaking the promises we promised to do (or NOT to do). So ngayon, gagawa ako ng sarili kong version of the ever-popular, so-called New Year Resolutions.. hehe..

Here are a few of my New Year Resolutions w/ my own side comments..

• Gigising na ako ng maaga.. pramis.. madaming pramis.. -> yan ay kung maaga ako makauwi at hindi umaga.. else, ASA pa ako..
• Aagahan ko na ang pasok sa office, I’ll try my very best among the rest.. -> wish ko lang damihan ang beses na magkaron ng skipping empty train sa Q.Ave. MRT station, at sana rin paki-bawasan naman ang footbridge –isn’t this supposed to help meaning mapadali ang buhay nating mga mamamayan..pero It’s not! Grr.. pampatagal pa! un nilakad ko sa napakalawak na footbridge eh sana ipinila ko na lang.. diba.. un nilakad ko dun, edi nasa unahan ako ng pila.. haayness ah..!
• Babawasan ko na ang crybaby times.. -> basta ba wag niyo ko paiyakin..else kayo rin..magngangangawa na naman ako..sige ka..hehe
• Try ko na bawasan magsungit.. -> sige na nga..try lang ah..di ako magpapramis..
• Babawasan ko na tumawa.. -> asa ka.. umasa ka na lang.. hahahha!
• Minimize ko na ang pagsagot ng survey sa Friendster bulletin.. -> nang-aano ba kayo? sakit ng katawan, gusto niyo? Cancel natin toh! Hahaha!
• Iiwasan ko sumulyap sa Friendster, multiply, facebook (waw improving meron nako nun), at wordpress (promote ko site ko: www.joknut.wordpress.com .hahaha).. -> diko lam kung kaya ko..so i-cancel, cross-out na lang natin ito ah.. yey!
• Hindi na ako magpipilit.. -> pilitin niyo muna akong wag na mamilit.. *behlat*! Hahaha.. lastly..
• Hindi na ako mangungulet ulet..pramis..madaming pramis.. -> neknek niyo kaya! Edi parang sinabi mo nang wag nang maging ako.. hahah! Nek-nek niyo..! hahhaha! *wink*

So ayan.. yun mga walang side-comments, yun lang ang gagawin ko.. but ill try some of it.. so pag ni-cross out natin lahat ng may side comments….

JokeL’s New Year Resolution..

..aaaaay..wala na natira.. ? bullet lang? walang laman?

 

HAPPY NEW YEAR! 🙂

Let’s be happy this year! Atleast try to see the kwelang side of all the serious issues.. J yiboi!

aPir naman jan! J hahaha! 🙂